July 15 Monday Colin sleeps in till 8. During coffee we complain about the tile not being finished and how much we want the room completed. We complete his morning routine, had him in his chair by 11. After lunch he rested until D arrived. I sent a schedule for the morning person, L, to her email for review. Colin was up in the stander for about an hour, then he began to feel poorly. His arms, hands, back and legs all in pain. I ordered more things for his room. A bulletin board, some magnets and pins, more medical supplies. I continued my search for a call button/monitoring system that wasn’t $1000. After he had his feet vibrated and taken more pain meds, he felt a little better. I made dinner, D fed him then his shift was over, my began. For every 15 day pay period I get 57 minutes of compensation. A 16 day period whittles it down to 12 minutes. The remaining time goes to provide 11 hours of care from others. I don’t care as long as he has proper care. Any minutes I can claim, and get $10.25/hr for, all go to medical supplies. We hang out after D leaves. I read, Colin streams a show and messes around on FB. By 9:30 he is ready for bed. I have him in, positioned, medicated, watching a movie by 10:15. He is restless through the night, waking himself with sudden jolts, feeling confined, claustrophobic, immobile. I get up at least 5 times to adjust, calm, comfort or cover.
July 16 Tuesday His therapy day, the last PT on the schedule before insurance review. OT does not require the regular approval to continue, but PT does. We get through his morning and have I him in the chair before 11. He chills while I clean the kitchen, get lunch ready. We have him ready to go when D arrives we get him in the van. While they attend therapy I wash the van. He says his session was “meh”. At least he didn’t have AD. After we go to the grocery store. Colin picks out soda, beer and candy. Nothing nutritious. We get home, unload. I make dinner. D feeds Colin while I eat with my husband. The tile is finally done in his room. We go in and check it out. Colin zips around in his chair, enjoying the space. Another week or so and we can move him in. D leaves when his shift ends at 7, Colin and I hang out. I order more items for his area and the dogs flea medicine. He is uncomfortable by 8, wants candy to distract him. I have him pick it up, hand it to me for practice. By 9:45 he is ready for bed. He is never really ready. He hates going to bed, being in bed. The torture of the morning sessions are exacerbated by this need to get up. In bed he cannot move when he is restless which frightens him during the night. When he wakes with a start, moans and whimpers, I hear it all. I used to go in and try to help but realized I just made it worse. This is something he must deal with, there is nothing for me to do. He says to get him in so I do. By the time I have his leg wraps on, catheter changed he is dozing. I finish up, get his meds and set the TV timer. He is restless through the night. I get up many times to adjust his pillow, move the fan, cover him.
July 17 Wednesday Colin is awake by 8:30. We have coffee, I begin his ROM. We need to be done by 11 as the State case worker is visiting today. At 10:15 she shows up, 45 minutes early. With her supervisor from Sacramento. I really don’t care, Colin is upset and lets them know they have interrupted his morning routine. They are apologetic, make it quick. I show them the modifications, they are impressed. They commend me on his care, applaud that he has not reentered the hospital and has no more bedsores. She leaves the next 20 page packet I need to turn in by October, then they are gone. We can take our time with the rest of the morning. D arrives with a pizza, which makes Colin’s day. He feeds him, they relax. He gets him in the stander for about 90 minutes, until Colin gets some relief on his lower back. He relaxes for about an hour the n has his feet vibrated. I make dinner, D feeds him, washes the dishes even though I tell him not to. By the end of D’s shift Colin is ready for more candy. We hang out. He streams some show, messes around on FB. I read. Again by 8 he feels bad, by 9:30 relinquishes his freedom and has me get the bed ready. He is in and settled by 10:15. Another restless night.
July 18 Thursday I let him sleep till almost 9. We have no appointments, no caregiver today. Just the two if us. We decide to go see a movie, World War Z even though we know it won’t be like the book. There are 2 workers today and the new door from the dining room to his room is put in. I LOVE this door! After the morning routine we have lunch then head to town. We go to the Daily Grill so he can order a burger there. He says he is on a mission to find the best burger in town. So far Giuseppe Gallo has the lead. After, the Daily Grill ties. We go to the movie, a good zombie movie if you are not expecting the book. Having read it I was disappointed but can see there is a franchise forming. Maybe the finale will be the book.
We get home, open the house and hang out. I continue looking for items we need to organize all the supplies. By 10 he is ready for bed, falling asleep in his chair. I get him in bed, positioned, medicated, comfortable. He has a little better night than previous ones. I only get up about 3 times.
July 19 Friday He cannot sleep in. The workers are here, the room getting closer to completion. It is hot. We get through the morning torture, have him up by 11:30. After lunch he is relaxing. D arrives at 1, gets Colin into the stander by 2. I leave for my annual gynecology appointment that was due in February. After my visit I talk with my mother’s husband. He will be 90 on the 10th. I would like to be up there for his celebration but am not seeing any way possible. Colin has OT, we are training the other cg, L (who has not gotten back to me yet…bad sign) and I go back to work the following week. I miss my mom when I talk to him. I cry for a bit, gather myself then go meet my husband for dinner. We get to hang out long enough for another friend to come by. I miss hanging out with these people, it has been too long. I have to leave by 6, my husband stays t hang with others who will arrive later. I have Colin’s order from the Yard House, head home. D feeds him once I get there then heads out. I hang with Colin while he streams a show and I read. He is in bed by 10:45 after I tell him there is no rush. D is on for the weekend to get more familiar with the ROM exercises. He can sleep on if he wants. He rests better, but still wakes afraid at least twice. I wish there was a way to help him through these episodes without medications. I am tired of pills being the answer. We have worked too hard to get rid of most. I don’t believe prescriptions are the answer.
July 20 Saturday He is up early for his BMP. We are not quite finished by the time D arrives, but close enough. I am on observation for the ROM, assisting in getting the correct motion, angle etc. D gets him dressed, then up in the chair. After lunch he is in the stander for 90 minutes. Once D’s shift is over, we get to go into his room, with AC. I have the thermostat at 78. It is 89 in the main house. Once we get him over there he feels better. He does not like using the computer to stream, like in the hospital, but he is cool and comfortable. We do not leave this room until bed time. after the house is open. I have him in bed by 10:45 all timers set, meds given. He rests poorly unable to sleep long before waking in fear and confusion. I get up about 6 times.
July 21 Sunday Colin is still asleep when D arrives at 9. I gave him meds at 7, closed the house, drew the curtains and went back to bed myself. I was up by 8:30, made coffee. D arrives at 9, Colin slept till nearly 10. My husband slept till 9:30. I left D and Colin to handle the morning routine, was needed some. I was able to start laundry, clean the kitchen between guidance. L finally called to complain about the schedule. She said she had a child, could not work 6 days in a row (5 hours each). She told me days she could not work. I listened and told myself she would not be working for us. For someone who is 10 minutes away, with a shift from 8 – 1, a couple Saturdays each month from 9-3, she complains? Seriously, this is a person who seems only happy getting what they want. I told Colin, he said “Fuck her.” I agreed. I began to send emails to folks who had applied, prepared a schedule with just D and I. It would be difficult, but we could do this until we found the right person. We all agreed L was not going to be a cg and I made plans to replace her. She hadn’t even started the job. It must be nice to be in a position one can dictate the hours and days. I have never had that. After lunch he tried the stander but was not feeling good. We moved the mat table into his room and we showed D his balances, stretches. He got on his side for about 30 minutes to alleviate the back pain. D got him back up, then his shift was over. We hung out in his, literal, cool room for the rest of the evening. We streamed some dumb movie, I ordered curtains for his room and the gym.I researched sewing machines. I hate the plastic disposal diapers. I never used them when my boys were babies, I hate them still. I want to make something from cloth for him, reusable, breathable. I have no clue how to go about it. By 9:30 we went back into the main house and got him ready for bed. He was sleeping by 10:30. He actually slept better. Only woke a couple of times. I need to find the key to helping him sleep without waking sans drugs. There must be a way.