June 5 Wednesday I have him up and dressed by 10. We are meeting a friend for sushi, then plan on dealing with Costco. Colin does not feel well, leg pains. He does have more normal sensations in his palms now. He mentioned he has been able to tell when his palm is on skin or a blanket or his hip bone. He could not before. Progress is so slow. We are waiting for our rolls when I realize my husband has the redemption certificate and our executive membership is due. No Costco today then. We finish lunch then go to the grocery store. We head home, come in from the heat. We get on the mat table, do some stretches and ROM. His legs are bothering him again. I zap his triceps to divert his attention. He has another friend come by for a couple of hours. After his friend leaves we have a light dinner. My husband had dinner with his family so I didn’t have to cook. After dinner I massage his legs, we stream a movie and relax. We talk about FES. I research equipment and even though the concept has been around since the late 60’s, research has proven how awesome it is for ALL kinds of disabilities and conditions, the only home system is sold by 1 company, in the UK, for $30,000. WTF. We can spend billions so men can have hair and erections while women can get big boobs and no wrinkles but nothing to improve almost all health aspects for mobility limited people. Nobody even talks about this, nobody trains for it, only specialized centers have this. Insurance covers conventional old school PT which means we have to advance ourselves. We will improvise.
I get him in bed, he examines his feet and legs, pats his thighs. He sighs heavily looking disappointed he is not further along. I remind him it has not even been a year yet. I give him his meds, help him relax. I am in bed by 11 then up again around midnight to ease his moaning. It is about another 40 minutes before he finally drifts off.
June 6 Thursday He sleeps in a little. I get him coffee by 9, we finish with his BMP, ROM and have him in the chair by 11:30. In the stander for an hour after lunch then the mat table for stretches and balance. It is far too hot to go outside so he gets on the computer while I clean the kitchen. His friend comes by and they visit while I research more FES ideas. My husband is going by his mom’s and bringing home enchiladas for dinner. I don’t have to cook! I find an exercise bike that he will be secure in and with a couple more EMS simulators we can make our own FES set up for about $500, albeit not as streamlined and professional looking. It will do the job. My husband gets home with dinner, we all eat. Colin is ready for bed around 9:30, his legs doing a bit better than previous nights. We get him comfortable, administer his meds and help him relax so he can sleep. There are fans going but it is still warm. He cannot sweat. It takes him awhile to feel comfortable enough to sleep.
June 7 Friday I am up by 7 to give his meds. I manage to get a few things done before he is ready for coffee by 8:30. The heat has arrived and there will be no AC until his area is finished. After coffee I do ROM, zap his abdominal muscles. He is out of bed by 11, we head to town by noon. I pick up some knee high TED hose, first aide tape and wipes at the drug store. The heat is over bearing. We go have lunch. Following that we consume far too much ice cream. Then Costco. What a fucking nightmare. Why do working people descend on the warehouse at 2:30 on a Friday? We finish and manage to make it through the check out by 3:30. My husband greets us there to help load the van. He just appears! It’s so awesome. Colin and I head home, my husband returns inside to the near empty warehouse to look for shorts.
We get home, I get Colin inside, give him meds and get him cool. I unload the van, put everything away and get dinner ready. My husband gets home and asks if I have gotten any texts or calls. I tell him no, ask him why. He tells me the news about the shootings in Santa Monica and at the SMC campus. Ian attends SMC. He lives a block away from the school. My heart skips 5 beats. My stress level skyrockets. I can feel the tension everywhere. I listen to the phone messages. There is 2 from the school, all automated giving information. Nothing from Ian. We all text him asking him to contact us. We hear nothing. After dinner Colin is resting, streaming a show. My husband and I go for a quick walk. Once we are back Colin wants some snacks so I get him nuts and candy. Following another show I get him in bed, help his examine his appendages then relax. I wash his hair to cool him off then get him settled for bed. He is drifting off by 10:30. Ian finally texts around 11pm. His phone had been dead, he is fine. I don’t understand why he couldn’t borrow someone’s to send a quick message. Damn kids.
June 8 Saturday He has to get up early. I wash him following his BMP, go through a quick ROM, get him dressed and in the chair by 11. His friend is here by 11:15. I feed Colin lunch, pack up his bag and send them off. He is going to a BD gathering in town. My husband and I enjoy some time alone, get dressed and head to town. We have his parents housewarming party today. Outside. It is 111 degrees. It is beyond hot. We stop by our friends place on the way, go pick up a gift and head for the heat fest. They have a table set up under the patio cover and misters. I set my chair under the misters, had my husband make us some Sea Breeze drinks and enjoyed the visit with his family. I kept in touch with Colin, let him know our schedule. We arrived home about 20 minutes before they did, around 10. Colin is tired, the heat is making him uncomfortable. I get him in bed, strip him down, put a light sheet on him. Two fans, open windows he finally starts to cool off. I get him his meds, help him drift off. I am in bed by 12:30.
June 9 Sunday Another hot day. Colin cannot sleep in. I am up at 6:30 to close the house. Once I give Colin his 7 am meds he asks me to get him up. I start coffee, close the house up, lower the outside blinds. After coffee I do ROM while zapping his triceps then I change his catheter. The sterile technique I have to use always seems to upset Colin. He does not like to see the tube coming out of him so I have to place a pillow to block his view. Once it is changed, the stoma cleaned, drain sponge replaced, I get him dressed then in the chair. I make him some lunch, then a brunch for me and my husband. We hide in the house for the day getting on the mat table later in the afternoon. It is too hot for the stander. He streams a documentary while I make dinner. We watch the season 3 finale of GOT. Colin is in bed by 9:30, his legs bothering him again even though we altered his medication. I massage his feet until they feel better. He begins to relax after his meds are given, drifting off by 10:30, all the fans blasting him with air.