Thurs 1/24 Rose early to get the day going. It was raining, but not heavily. I started the space heater then started waking Colin at 8. I washed his hair, face, brushed his teeth. He was dressed, fed and ready by 11. I packed his 2 pm meds and antibiotics, a container to drain his catheter bag, the list of his medications, sweaters, wipes and the In and Out gift certificate given by some good friends and the disabled person placard. I started to get him in the car at 11:30, was ready to leave by 11:55. The chair fits in the trunk, the back and cushion in the rear seat. The slide board, all belts accounted for. We were on the road by noon.
We had a 1 pm doctor appointment. I had made a list of all his medications. We had to go by the rehab doctor to pick up a prescription, take it to the pharmacy and wait. During the wait, we would go to In and Out.
We drove into the disabled parking slot. Damn if there isn;t enough room to get him in his chair without being in the way. Never occurred to me before. As I was moving him out I noticed his side was wet. There was stomach content on the seat. I had left his PEG tube open and the drive down had pushed some of his meal out. It had to be something I guess.
We made it to the doctor appointment on time, his primary physician. I cleaned Colin up before we went in. He had not seen Colin since long before the accident. We spent a good deal of time with the doctor answering questions. He gave Colin a prescription for an inhaler to open his airways and loosen the mucous. It went well. We would go back and see him in 2 weeks.
We swung by the rehab doctor’s office then dropped the prescriptions off at the pharmacy. They told me an hour. We went to In and Out. He ordered a #2 with a coke and I ordered a chocolate shake. We shared the fries, I poured some coke down his PEG tube to clean it out. He ate all his cheeseburger. I gave him his meds and IV in the parking lot then after an hour we went to the pharmacy. We had to wait another 30 minutes. WTF is wrong with these people. It’s 2 prescriptions and they act like it is 50. Fucking 90 minutes? Why didn;t they just say that to begin with? They cost me another $40 and finally by 4 we were heading home.
Once home I reassembled the chair, got him on the slid board and slid him over. His pants caught the edge and I didn’t have enough weight on the other edge to stop the board from sliding off the car seat. For the second time in 2 weeks, he was not on the board or chair. My phone was out of reach. Here were were in the fucking driveway, rain soaked mud and rocks at our feet. Colin is perched on the edge of the car and holding onto me patiently waiting for a plan to get him out of there. I tried to pull him onto the car seat, but am not strong enough. I told my self I was not going to put him on the muddy ground no matter what.
I stabilized him, made sure his feet and legs were in good positions. I stuck the slide board under his ass and put leverage on it to keep his butt off the edge of the car. I knew I would have to do a slide uphill, over the bump in the board, and up to the chair. I moved the chair out as far as I could to lessen the angle, but only by a few degrees. Otherwise I couldn’t reach the brakes. And then I heaved his ass up. It took 4 pulls and then 3 adjustments but he was finally in the chair. I was in tears, shaking. My chance of being an old lady with full continence is probably over and I am damn surprised I didn’t poop or start my period. Regardless, he was in the chair without being in the mud.
We got into the house I got him comfortable and unloaded the car. I start some dinner and give Colin meds at 6:45. I begin to feel the stiffness by 7:30. He east a good dinner, chicken, cheese ravioli and broccoli. We have some ice cream. By 8:30 he is back in bed. We talk about how scary the car transfer was, how helpless he is to do anything. He was very patient during the whole situation even though I was struggling. He says we need a younger stronger care giver and I agree.
By the time I do his IV at 10:30 I can barely move. Every time I sit or kneel I feel the muscles from my neck, shoulders back and hips tightening up. Maybe it’s time for me to take some drugs. He is settled for the night by 11 and I finally waddle off to bed hoping I won’t feel this badly in the morning.
Fri 1/25 I remember how I used to look forward to Fridays. Now they are just another day instead of the end of a week. Colin called me once during the night to uncover him. Then I slept till the alarm went off. My husband was complaining about his back, thinking it was the mattress. Well damn! I love the mattress. Not only is it expensive, I feel good after sleeping on it. I felt ok this morning. But, if he is waking up with a stiff back, we’ll have to do something.
I am up at 6:15, done with his feeding and IV by 7. I turn on the space heater at 8 and put electrodes on his feet. By 8:30 I put on Pandora and he has coffee and toast. I get him washed and dressed. I am doing ROM on his legs when his right hip pops loudly. I feel around and there is a lump on his inner hip. Is that the HO? Did I do something to hurt him? I decided not to get him up so the PT coming at 1 today could check out his hip. We do his shoulder and neck exercises. While I give Romey her morning antibiotic and get his 10 am meds ready Colin works on his arms. He is lifting his straightened arms up towards the ceiling, then holding them. He supports his wrists also as he does not have his braces on. He rotates his wrists. He does this until his arms are tired. We work on his hands. He is coughing and I take off his cap. He has used the inhaler a couple of times so he was able to bring up the big glob that has been giving him trouble. Once he does that, he breathes clearly for a couple of weeks. By 1 he is ready and the PT therapist arrives.
He does his initial assessment and checks out Colin’s hip. He says if I had done anything bad it would have been obvious. He says it was just something readjusting, his hip felt fine. While Colin worked with the PT I did dishes and got his 2 pm meds and IV ready. I answered questions and we showed the therapist the stander. He was very impressed. We let him know we had wedges as well as a mat table and cuff weight set coming. He was pleased to hear how eager Colin was to continue therapy.
Once PT was gone I gave him his IV and got him out of bed. We had lunch. He had a chicken sandwich and I had yogurt and a banana. We had juice and ice cream. He continued his arm exercises. The shelves my mom bought for us arrive and then his weight set. Strap weights from 1 lb to 10. The bigger weights we put on his abdomen to strengthen his diaphragm. He was up to 30 lbs in rehab. The smaller ones he uses to build his strength. I think he is up to 2 lbs.
We decide to watch a movie on Amazon. We have dinner. The streaming sucks. Stop and start was so bad. The middle 20 minutes turned in to 40 so we gave up. It was 9 and we had the BMP tonight. I got him back in bed. He complained of a headache. This was bad. I took his BP, it was high at 145/98. This is the autonomic dysreflexia so my task was to find out what the problem was and fix it so his BP would come down. I found a little blood around his supra pubic catheter site. I cleaned it, changed the dressing. It did not appear clogged as he still had output. I took his BP several times till it was his normal 105/64. I could relax a little now. We thought it was pushed against during pressure releif so I would do a different method to protect his site in the future.
Once his BMP was done and he was comfortable I fed him his 10 pm meds and IV at 10:45. We were off but not by much. We tried to finish the movie but the streaming was just as bad. I gave him his sleeping meds at 11:30 and settled him in for the night. He woke up around 4 to be uncovered. Sassy always sleeps with him, hogs the bed and makes him warm. He slept without incident the rest of the night.